WHY RELATIONSHIPS SUCK!!!

hey guys, first non-date title in like quite some time. couldnt think of titles in the past so decided to name them after the dates but today's topic totally rocks so i decided to name it just tt. well this will be one of my infamous (if u can consider it tt) ranting posts so sit back and prepare to read ALL my thoughts. some of you (mainly 1 person *cough*poh*cough*) said tt my posts are so short so heres a long one for u.

well judith asked me bout subway girl today and it really got me thinking of how relationships suck. i mean u guys noe wad kind of relationships i mean. i think most of u tt have been in a relationship will agree with me and those of u tt are in a relationship rite now would violently disagree. and there are those very blessed pple who have nv been in a relationship before. actually, im not really talking abt relationships as a whole. of course the times when u are tgt are totally awesome. if they suck why even be in tt relationship rite? the crux of the issue is the start (wooing?) and the end (the BREAK-UP!!!)

the start of most relationships start with one party liking another party of the opposite gender (im not even going to mention abt the scenario with the same gender...whoops just mentioned it) and this can obviously turn into several scenarios (wow this is like totally turning into an analysis of relationships). theres the wonderful scenario where the other party turns out to like the first person and they live happily ever after. then the sort of troublesome scenario where the guy/girl has to woo the other person for some time and tt other person suddenly finds out tt she/he likes him/her. (ok for simplicities sake im going to start referring to the first person as a guy and the other person as (obviously) a girl). and after she likes him they live happily ever after. as a guy personally, tt scenario isnt too bad. i dont mind chasing a girl and going out of my way to do things for her (since i alr go out of my way to do things for everyone (not bragging just stating a fact)) so if i get the girl in the end im totally fine with it.

the worse case is when the girl after u chase her still doesnt like u. i mean u cant blame someone for not liking u. it might just mean tt tts not the one tt God has planned for u. im totally fine with tt. its just tt its frustrating. im sure most of u noe how it feels and like u feel (i feel anws) tt u are not loved. tt feeling is really horrible and its just totally crappy. obviously u are loved but during tt period of rejection u feel as though u are not able to be loved cos tt person doesnt like u. and tts why relationships suck. the process of getting into a relationship most of the time is guess work and anticipation and hoping only to be disappointed in the end.

then the middle of the relationship. ok first things first...to quote the zara monica weeeeeee "why cant we be dating and not be together". together in the sense of bf and gf and i totally agree. i mean i was going out with subway girl but i wasnt tgt with her. theres a total difference. and so getting back on point, the relationship im talking abt also includes the dating period and not just the period of time tt u are tgt. so the dating period of course is wonderful but i faced this problem when i was going out with subway girl. i could nv really see myself getting tgt with her for a long term. the thing was i didnt really noe how to say it. i mean when we were out we totally had fun but i just couldnt see it long term (btw im sure most of u tt noe the story noe tt it wasnt the breaking up but how we broke up). and tts the problem during the dating periods. what if u find out u dont see urself tgt with the girl long term. u enjoy going out with her and obviously u want to stay friends with the girl even if u arent tgt but how do u say tt?

and finally the end. im sure tts the worse part for everyone of us tt have been in a relationship except for the blessed few tt are still on good terms with their exs. well i dont really have to say much abt how sucky the process of the break-up is cos its pretty much granted. i didnt really have tt experience though but i think i got something worse. i really think tt a silent break-up is worse than a normal break-up cos u dont really have the closure u need. its like there isnt any chance at all to stay friends and like both of u are totally cut off from one another's lives. and like as u guys are Christians, the pple we date are also Christians and isnt it awful when u cut another Christian from ur life? totally sucky. and then there are some of us tt have the regrets of how they ended (ME!!!), why they ended, why i ended it? and other regrets after the whole thing has ended even yrs after the whole thing has ended and it can haunt us until we find another person which may take yrs and the whole cycle starts all over again. i mean ive put away and sort of come to terms with how it ended with subway girl but once in a while it comes back to haunt me again.

and this is the whole ongoing horror cycle of the relationship. so i have decided after long long hours of thinking tt i entrust my the ONE to God and whoever he has planned for me will come. i dont need to try to chase a girl and force a relationship to happen. these feelings may be just temporary and only love tt is in God is eternal. so why chase after something tt is temporary when God has someone planned for u. all tt u have to do is wait on Him to show the ONE to u. for now, im just happy cos i noe tt im loved. ive got wonderful friends all arnd me tt i noe all love me and ive got the ultimate love EVER!!! LOVE ITSELF!!! GOD!!! wad more can i ask for? and those of u tt still have regrets over past relationships, on opportunities lost, trust tt God has a plan for all this and tt if tt lost opportunity is truly the ONE God has planned for u, he wont be lost in ur life and He will put him back into ur life. but if he is not the ONE, then let God show u who is.

well ive fully preped myself for essay writing now. ill be writing another long essay maybe next week when i have like an hour to kill. i think tts arnd how long it took me to think and type this all out. maybe slightly less but u get the pt. an update on today is tt im totally dead tired cos of the 2 tuitions. ill nv have 2 tuitions on the same day ever again. it totally killed me!!! well tts it from me today. hope u are happy with the long post poh. cyas:)